“Grief is a most peculiar thing; we’re so helpless in the face of it. It’s like a window that will simply open of its own accord. The room grows cold, and we can do nothing but shiver. But it opens a little less each time, and a little less; and one day we wonder what has become of it.”
Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha
There aren’t words.
There really aren’t words for what you’ve gone through or are going through right now.
The hole in your chest and that hollow and empty feeling in your whole body is painful and feels like it’s just all of who you are now.
You have people around you trying to support you, show up for you, offer words of comfort, and help you in any way they can.
And it is with such good intentions, and it is wonderful they are there.
And at the same time - it’s just not helping in the way you need.
It’s making you feel even more alone and doubtful that you will ever resurface so you can breathe again - and not be drowning in grief and loss.
Going to work, making a sandwich, getting out of bed, talking, and breathing all feel like mountains to climb.
And not feeling numb or in a state of suffering feels like some fantasy land you don’t get to be a part of.
But I assure you— there is another way.
“Having survived huge losses myself and walked alongside many clients through the swamp of their grief, I would be honored to support you through whatever kind of loss or transition you’re experiencing. I love supporting my clients in rewriting their stories and am always inspired to see their post-traumatic growth.”
-Randall Harvey
coming out of the numbness
I know this will sound like words on a page, and they might not mean anything right now…
…and you don’t have to believe them.
You do get to feel better. You do get to heal.
Breathing and eating a sandwich don’t have to feel like mountains.
And that empty, hollow sorrow can heal and lessen in your body.
You can find peace in any horror you’ve been through. And the grief and loss can soften, can take a different shape, and you can start to function and feel a little more like you again.
It can happen. I see it happen every day. And you are not alone in this.
“Look, by now, you should have been able to get over it.”
I am not going to be that person that says this to you. Ever.
I will walk through the pain with you, listen to you, feel with you, and provide that space for you to fall apart.
To be and say what you need to.
And with a good spoonful of humor along the way, because it’s profoundly healing for the soul, we could all use more of that.
We will discuss all sorts of rituals to help remember the good, the loved one, and a better life.
There will be things to honor about your loved one, and others will join in with you.
You get to speak about this life without completely drowning in grief and loss, and instead, with, yes, some tears, but also some lightness, laughter, and love.
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